Ep.254 | Rachel Llanes | Romantic Intelligence and Its Impact on Your Performance

Your relationship has a bigger impact on your performance than you think.

You can have all the training and preparation you need to have a great game, meeting, practice, or day, but if your relationship is off…

You can’t be ON your best game.

So, how can we enhance and protect our closest relationships so we can excel in what we do?

I lean in to that question and more with relationship and behavior change expert, Rachel Llanes, on today’s episode of the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show.

This is one of the most powerful and practical interviews I’ve done this year. It’s an absolute must listen if you’re in a relationship or plan to be in one for the long haul. I wish I would’ve had this wisdom before I got married!

If you want your relationships to add more peace, power, and performance to your life and career, then lock in to today’s episode.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • The definition of romantic intelligence and its impact on your performance.
  • How strong relationships can enhance performance.
  • The four steps we must take to resolve relational conflicts effectively and peacefully. 
  • Rachel’s recommendation for how to be more present in your relationship.
  • The importance of vulnerability in professional settings.
  • Tactics for maintaining presence and attentiveness in relationships and the impact of technology on our attention control.


“Relationships are at the pinnacle of natural performance enhancers.” – Rachel Llanes

“Happy people are successful. Not the other way around.” – Rachel Llanes 

“Stop putting the wrong fuel in your partner’s love tank.” – Rachel Llanes

“A mastery of self is required to master a marriage.” – Rachel Llanes

“If you anchor your argument to facts, you don’t need to use force.” – Rachel Llanes

“Our blindspots live in our beliefs.” – Rachel Llanes

“Motivation is the soil that discipline grows out of.” – Rachel Llanes



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